How to Manage Toxic Family Holiday Guests in 4-Steps



The holidays are here, and they can cause some stress when we think about having to invite that special relative that triggers your and/or someone in your guest list.  Those anxious butterflies fluttering in our tummy at the very thought of inviting someone that has the potential to derail your perfect celebration.

It’s time to set boundaries to protect your mental and emotional wellbeing as this year your holiday season centers around your selfcare and wellbeing.  So here are my humble suggestions to dealing with setting your boundaries firmly and kindly. 

Listen, I know this can be one of the most difficult and challenging choices you’ll make.  I’ve been there and that woman that pushes her emotions down at the expense of her mental and emotional health. So here is my take on how to manage toxic family members in your holiday celebrations.

My first suggestion is NOT to invite them and send them a thoughtful gift instead to let them know you are thinking of them. This sets your firm boundaries and eases any guilt you may feel by excluding the party trigger. But if you must, then have a plan of action in place to manage your family member kindly and assertively.

Dealing with toxic family members during the holiday season can be a difficult and stressful experience for many people. However, there are a few steps you can take to help ensure that your holiday party goes as smoothly as possible.

How to Manage Toxic Family Guests in 4-steps: 

Step 1: Set Clear and Firm Boundaries-

Make it clear to your toxic family members what kind of behavior you will and will not tolerate at your party. Be specific about what actions or words are not acceptable and let them know that if they cross those boundaries, they will be asked to leave.

Step 2: Choose a Mediator-

Select someone you trust to function as a mediator. Be specific about mediation expectations. This person can help diffuse any potential conflicts and keep the peace.

Step 3: Set Entertainment-

It may be helpful to have some planned activities or games to distract from any tension or uncomfortable situations.  Entertainment can be a good coping mechanism for your challenging family member.

Step 4: Step away take a break and reassert-

If all else fails, remember that it’s okay to take a break. If you feel overwhelmed or stressed, take a few minutes to step away from the situation and regroup. It’s important to prioritize your own mental health and well-being, especially during the holiday season. Be prepared to have a kind and loving last resort solution tailored to minimize negative behavior impact.  

Overall, dealing with toxic family members can be a difficult and emotionally taxing experience. However, by setting boundaries, enlisting the help of a mediator, creating distractions, and taking breaks as needed, a final back-up plan can minimize the negative impact and help ensure that your holiday party is a success.

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Happy Holidays!

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